> Some people like that, but for lots of people it's hard. Personally, as an introvert, I'd hate to have everyone in the room looking at me the second I enter the room, all the time.
If in 2014 you are still feeling different for a __color__, I think the problem is more on you than others.
I'm not saying that racism or things like that don't exist. That is another thing.
I'm saying that really I'm pretty annoyed when I read these things. So what I'm Italian and I'm always the only Italian in the room, and so what?
Also, we want the same sex thing? What if we do Only Man Conferences? ? How much bad press will that get?
We want to be all equal? So what if a site of the weight of oKcupid will be like okWhiteCupid as this: www.blackpeoplemeet.com
Would be fun to read on hacker news: "Ok Cupid" now becomes only for whites. But if we want to be really equal no one should be upset right?
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Long thing...
I'm sayin' that while I'm for the parity of things and equality in general I just see most of them just taking advantage of being a minority to complain when things gets wrong.
As far I can tell you, mostly in my day to day life I don't see this white male dominance. I never judged someone just from the color or for being a girl, gay or whatever could be.
I'm pretty sure that is the same for most of us.
I'm not saying that there aren't problems about that.
TL;DR; humans seems to like to create problems (on both sides).
>> So what I'm Italian and I'm always the only Italian in the room, and so what?
>> If in 2014 you are still feeling different for a __color__, I think the problem is more on you than others.
The thing is.. you're right that it's fucking ridiculous that people are so judgmental and mean for a __color__, and that __they__ have a problem. But the fact that matters is that when you're the one being judged and mistreated every day, it doesn't really matter if they're right or not, it hurts and it's frustrating.
>> Also, we want the same sex thing? What if we do Only Man Conferences? ? How much bad press will that get?
That's a whole different subject. The point is, why would you do a man-only conference? Is it because you really care about having only men in there? Or because that's a way to (passive-aggressively) express your opinion against how stupid you think feminism is?
>> I just see most of them just taking advantage of being a minority to complain when things gets wrong.
I see what you mean, and maybe it's true in rare occasions. But more often than not, for someone to publicly talk about an issue, it's something important to them. Maybe not to you, but to them.
As a stupid example, it really pisses me off when people are disturbing me when I try to hack. I lose all my productivity and I feel like I wasted my day. But for them, they don't care.. they don't understand, they're just chatting about the weather or whatever. Unless I take the time to explain to them why it bothers me, they won't get it.
So, maybe when you see the other gender complaining you think they're annoying, or find excuses, or are abusing their minority. But in practice, I'd recommend paying close attention to what they say because it's not about what you think, it's about how you (or someone else) just hurt them without even knowing it.
>> I never judged someone just from the color or for being a girl, gay or whatever could be.
What if I told you that your post is extremely cruel for someone struggling with racial or gender harassment?
>> I'm pretty sure that is the same for most of us.
>> What if I told you that your post is extremely cruel for someone struggling with racial or gender harassment?
Probably where I live (SF) I can't totally see the entire problem as you.
Again I'm not saying that there aren't problems at all or SF reflects the world. I'm saying that I'm my pretty own small experience I saw something filled under racism or feminism when it wasn't.
>> As a stupid example, it really pisses me off when people are disturbing me when I try to hack. I lose all my productivity and I feel like I wasted my day. But for them, they don't care... they don't understand, they're just chatting about the weather or whatever
That comes with a perfect example few days ago on a local bus an old man (politely) asked a black guy lower the rap music.
He started to freakout about racism and the fact he can't because he is black etc... Just two normal genuine guys and a problem (music on speaker) that becomes racism.
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My comment aimed to say to the girls and blacks that are reading this that not everyone is racist against women and most of us (I hope) are not so please don't think that a small complain/problem is because of that.
If in 2014 you are still feeling different for a __color__, I think the problem is more on you than others.
I'm not saying that racism or things like that don't exist. That is another thing.
I'm saying that really I'm pretty annoyed when I read these things. So what I'm Italian and I'm always the only Italian in the room, and so what?
Also, we want the same sex thing? What if we do Only Man Conferences? ? How much bad press will that get?
We want to be all equal? So what if a site of the weight of oKcupid will be like okWhiteCupid as this: www.blackpeoplemeet.com
Would be fun to read on hacker news: "Ok Cupid" now becomes only for whites. But if we want to be really equal no one should be upset right?
--
Long thing...
I'm sayin' that while I'm for the parity of things and equality in general I just see most of them just taking advantage of being a minority to complain when things gets wrong.
As far I can tell you, mostly in my day to day life I don't see this white male dominance. I never judged someone just from the color or for being a girl, gay or whatever could be.
I'm pretty sure that is the same for most of us.
I'm not saying that there aren't problems about that.
TL;DR; humans seems to like to create problems (on both sides).
NOTE: I know is not really female only
NOTE 2: After the down-vote please explain.