Not that I dont appreciate the nice comments.
I have tried therapy. Several times. When they turned virtual the little humane contact they provided evaporated and I stopped paying for that crap. And dont get me started on trying to talk to a therapist that wears a face mask the entire time.
I am not actively trying to end my life.
Just trying to correct the naive suggestions that going to a gym or having a child will make you happy or fullfilled.
Loneliness sites bone deep.
The older you get, the harder making meaningful human connections get.
And add the past the past 2 years of “keeping us safe and healthy” what used to be my natural coping mechanisms were outright banned.
I tread on.
Trust me, from the outside you would not think I was this lonely. I have all the things and the hobbies and the travels.
Even athletic enough to sport visible abs, which is not all common at 46 in these parts of the hemisphere.
If I am lucky maybe Ill get shot in a failed robbery or something.
I certainly do not have the courage to physically harm myself.
Loneliness has several parts - spiritual, sexual, belonging, tactile, conversational, etc. Some take a lot of work to address, but others might have a straightforward fix:
1. Dancing classes might solve the tactile aspect. Dancing requires a lot of face time during the class, and even more practice time between classes to really get the most out of it. If you're physically fit you might enjoy lindy-hop, for example: https://youtu.be/e62p_K4-Cvc?t=24
2. Likewise contact sports, e.g. martial arts. For example judo and greco-roman wrestling both are tactile. https://youtu.be/PVJoN9MCw_E?t=28
3. Groups sports might help with belonging, esp outdoor sports where masks are not an issue. Beach volleyball, for example. Not the professional type, but the casual one where people drink beer after a game. https://youtu.be/Kx7GlMXVZAM?t=163
4. Conversations are hard to enjoy with a mask, so maybe move to a red state. If your situation is dire, it might require dire measures. I heard North Carolina is great like this - a friend recently moved there for this reason (among many). [no video :)]
Do you feel like any of this is helping? Often times I get a seemingly great advice which I can't follow, so how is this for you?
I am not actively trying to end my life. Just trying to correct the naive suggestions that going to a gym or having a child will make you happy or fullfilled.
Loneliness sites bone deep. The older you get, the harder making meaningful human connections get. And add the past the past 2 years of “keeping us safe and healthy” what used to be my natural coping mechanisms were outright banned.
I tread on. Trust me, from the outside you would not think I was this lonely. I have all the things and the hobbies and the travels. Even athletic enough to sport visible abs, which is not all common at 46 in these parts of the hemisphere.
If I am lucky maybe Ill get shot in a failed robbery or something.
I certainly do not have the courage to physically harm myself.
I appreciate the concern though.