I haven't used Windows in a while so maybe these are fixed but the two biggest annoyances for me were the lack of spring-loaded folders and the lack of Details view being able to show the size of directories. #1 on your list was also really annoying. I'm also a big fan of disclosure triangles which Windows doesn't do.
Explorer does disclosure triangles (well, pluses in Windows's case) in the Folder tree side panel. It works better than incorporating it in the main view, IMO, but your mileage may vary.