Its not about blame. Its about the diplomatic message of the whole story. And the diplomatic message is that Russia can still pressure Poland, with weapons, if it deems necessary. So Poland better behaves accordingly. This show of power and bullying was typical for the cold war, and this story went down in that same manner. Nobody would fire missiles today there, but the possibility/capability is what matters, not the will. If you look at it his way, then the US's role in this is the least important.
If you look at it from Poland's point of view, of course that's true. What I'm saying is that they were US missiles targeting Russian ones, which was a re-escalation of the arms race that has the potential to kill us all, including the Polish. Poland's local concerns are valid based on the history between Poland and Russia, but small in the grand scheme of things.
