I'm with you. I added parallel test execution to PHPUnit, which its maintainers have been promising since 2005. When I started writing it, they found me and encouraged me along. So I spent two weeks on it at 16 hours a day. When I was done, they invented reasons not to merge. When I was done fixing the reasons they had invented, they said they didn't want to merge it because they were going to write it themselves.
Sounds like a pretty bad case of NIH. Maybe you should fork? (Although, I haven't heard the other side of this, so that's assuming the project's code standards were followed, your code was good quality, etc.)
I find it a shame that people do that and fuck around with contributors to their project. The time comes when they need contributors to submit patches, and fewer people will bother.
