Simply false, I have cared for a family member with dementia. What I remember most is their fear, fear that they were dying, fear that I was there to hurt them. I could honestly reassure them that I was not, and I wouldn't give that up for anything.
It's presumption and rude of you to make these assumptions about my experiences, please stop.
Come on -- It's not more presumptive and rude than to take another person's feelings of their own dead loved ones and mortality and call it disgusting and perverse. Please take a moment and reflect on "The Other" and the fact that we're all humans made of the same parts.
I sought to ask questions and learn why your experience differed from mine. I would ask what your goals were entering into this conversation and if that's a quality you want to cultivate within yourself.
It's presumption and rude of you to make these assumptions about my experiences, please stop.