"It would make the architect the boss because he would tell you what needs to happen next."

But he would have no formal power and there would be no underlings. The other people would voluntaritly accept his leadership based on his skills. (Or they would not and leave). So he cannot treat them bad just because he feels like it.

That is a different approach to power and I have seen it working in the real world (think of the friends example).

But yes, I also have not seen it working stable and consistent enough to base all of society on it.

So the explicit anarchistic projects I have seen, definitely had (informal) power structures.

So I really love the consensus approach of anarchism when it is working. It is really awesome working together with people who all do it because they want to, not because they have to. But the hypocrosy regarding power is turning me off. Because in reality there are no true equals and also in anarchistic projects there are people having way more power than others. Which I don't think is bad, but it is bad pretending this isn't the case.