They're not wrong that it is rooted in misogyny, considering that you don't really use 'whore' or 'ho' with positive connotations. Not to mention that terms like thot are more likely to be found in incel communities these days, which is hardly a glowing endorsement of the term being used with good intentions.
As someone else said, at least 'thirst trap' doesn't lay it squarely at the feet of women, as if men aren't capable of doing the same.
I would ask, why shouldn't it be laid squarely at the feet of these women? This is something that a particular type of woman does to vulnerable men.
These men ought to have our sympathy rather than being labelled as "incels", a term which so easily lets us avoid viewing them as victims. Similarly, these women ought to be held responsible for their actions.
People seem to be more concerned with the perceived misogyny of, at worst, a mildly offensive word than the systematic exploitation of vulnerable members of society.
"A woman considered to be sexually provocative or promiscuous; a slut or whore" (Dictionary.com)
"A girl who is looked at as a hoe or slut." (Urban Dictionary)
"A slut, a woman who is sexually promiscuous." (Wiktionary)
"A promiscuous woman" (Collins)
Nowhere does it say a thot "attracts and extracts money from lonely boys". The behavior of a "thot" is not immoral, she is simply sexually active / promiscuous. Using this term in a derogatory manner is misogynistic, just like "slut". Downvote me all you want.