This all might be true if housing is somehow not a problem. Otherwise one is forced to climb up from the bottom-most layer of a pit of scams and abuse.
You've unfortunately been breaking the site guidelines a ton lately. If that keeps up, we're going to have to ban your account. I don't want to ban you, so would you please review the rules and stick to them? We want thoughtful, substantive, and above all curious conversation here. We don't want snark, name-calling, or flamewar.