That's not even the context we're talking about here. We're talking about professional argument. Disagreement over decisions. Hurling slurs at people isn't even in the orbit of that.

I'm talking about people being thin-skinned, petty and passive-aggressive about other people disagreeing with their ideas, which is something I see _constantly_ in this field.

It's much worse when the progress we've made is weaponized against people and minor technical/procedural disagreements get turned into "other person hates X" because they disagree with me and I'm X...which unfortunately happens sometimes (and mirrors the false-equivalency that you've presented here).