Gruber was clearly not the only person briefed in this way. A cursory glance at other tech news outlets show that many reporters were given the same treatment.
I only picked articles that made their source clear.
"We can report on Mountain Lion a half-year before it ships because Apple, for the first time, decided to give the computer press a look at a new OS X version long before its release. Normally, we see a new OS X version at most a few days before the shipping date. The early version of Mountain Lion that Apple gave us is substantially the same one that its registered developers will be able to download starting today. After using Mountain Lion intensely for a few days, I'm deeply impressed with its new convenience and security features, its subtle interface improvements, its cloud-based file synching, and its compatibility with software written for earlier versions." http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2400311,00.asp
"We got our hands on an early version of the OS -- so early, in fact, that it's something of a pre-developer build. (Heck, there isn't even an image of a mountain lion to choose from in the default wallpapers.) The version available to developers today should address some of the kinks we encountered during our testing, not that we suffered all that many hiccups." http://www.engadget.com/2012/02/16/apple-os-x-mountain-lion-...
Your quotes make no distinction between a bike courier leaving a package to the front desk, and the Senior VP of Apple Worldwide Marketing giving a private presentation to an individual.
Engadget: http://www.engadget.com/2012/02/16/apple-os-x-mountain-lion-...
PC Mag: http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2400311,00.asp
Tech Crunch: http://techcrunch.com/2012/02/16/os-x-mountain-lion/
Time: http://techland.time.com/2012/02/16/apples-os-x-10-8-mountai...
USA Today: http://www.usatoday.com/tech/columnist/edwardbaig/story/2012...
Cnet: http://news.cnet.com/8301-27076_3-57378751-248/apple-mac-os-...
Jim Dalrymple: http://www.loopinsight.com/2012/02/16/first-look-os-x-mounta...
Slashgear: http://www.slashgear.com/meet-apple-os-x-mountain-lion-16213...
The Verge: http://www.theverge.com/2012/2/16/2801047/mac-os-x-10-8-moun...
Macworld: http://www.macworld.com/article/165407/2012/02/hands_on_with...