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> nobody got buff without being pushed by those around them

This is completely contrary to my experience. The successes I’ve had were my own motivations and drive.




This made me a little sad. I remember my parents pushing water colors, carving sets, parks and rec, trumpets, books, computers, you name it in front of me to help me find something I was interested in. They didn't force any particular thing on me, but definitely exposed me to many things to help me find my path. Then they supported my interest in ways that boggle my mind looking back. There is no way they could afford to provide me many of the experiences I had.

I sincerely hope that you were just ignorant of the help you received along the way. A child with absolutely no support or encouragement is a very depressing thought.


I think you are misinterpreting "push". In the comment you replied to, it is (I believe) being used in the sense of "pressure, force, compel", rather than "provide with opportunity". My reading of TedDoesntTalk's comment does not indicate that they were provided with no support or opportunity - merely that the motivation to persist with those opportunities, once they ceased being easy fun distractions and required dedication for improvement, arose internally.


Precisely. Thank you.


You had a very priviledged childhood then. The only response to my interests I got from my parents was "you are already good at school why are you straining yourself doing these unnecessary things".

And I did not have bad parents. Many actually hinder their childrens development, instead of being ambivalent to it.




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