Not gonna be a popular answer but I will say it nonetheless.
I used to be fairly shy, especially with the other sex, of course. But in my personal life with family and friends I was fairly normal, it was just shyness and a lack of confidence while surrounded by others.
I cured myself through ego, a bit of arrogance and blunt thoughts about women, discovering what I value and I what I don't in the process.
1. I spent several days looking at people (high school) and tried to look at them objectively (without paying much attention to how popular they were)
2. I realized most people were fairly mediocre (in the sense, they were not accomplishing much, not really smart), I had absolutely no reasons to be ashamed or unconfident in the face of people that were not faring any better than I did.
3. As for women, I just humanized them (sounds very obvious but well, I was young). After all, they also go to toilet, they have their own dreams shattered, grand ambitions, false hope, small moment of joy. And no matter how pretty they are, from time to time, when the night comes, they are alone in bed, questioning their existence, life choices, remembering their mistakes and crying out of sadness and lost ones.
After this moment, I started to see others and women as more or less similar to myself. I had a good idea of what I valued (intelligence, provocative thoughts), and I what I did not really value (popularity contest, amassing lots of things, the latest gadgets, new clothes, etc).
As soon as I established myself, I did not try to compete, stopped seeing women as magical creatures, did not care about being "popular" and started making friends with people, who shared common values.
I used to be fairly shy, especially with the other sex, of course. But in my personal life with family and friends I was fairly normal, it was just shyness and a lack of confidence while surrounded by others.
I cured myself through ego, a bit of arrogance and blunt thoughts about women, discovering what I value and I what I don't in the process.
1. I spent several days looking at people (high school) and tried to look at them objectively (without paying much attention to how popular they were)
2. I realized most people were fairly mediocre (in the sense, they were not accomplishing much, not really smart), I had absolutely no reasons to be ashamed or unconfident in the face of people that were not faring any better than I did.
3. As for women, I just humanized them (sounds very obvious but well, I was young). After all, they also go to toilet, they have their own dreams shattered, grand ambitions, false hope, small moment of joy. And no matter how pretty they are, from time to time, when the night comes, they are alone in bed, questioning their existence, life choices, remembering their mistakes and crying out of sadness and lost ones.
After this moment, I started to see others and women as more or less similar to myself. I had a good idea of what I valued (intelligence, provocative thoughts), and I what I did not really value (popularity contest, amassing lots of things, the latest gadgets, new clothes, etc).
As soon as I established myself, I did not try to compete, stopped seeing women as magical creatures, did not care about being "popular" and started making friends with people, who shared common values.