Pushing into the danger zone leaves you open to getting hurt. Enough doing that, and eventually you will. Avoiding pain and avoiding risk is avoiding life.

> avoiding risk is avoiding life.

True. A life well-lived requires courage. Courage in means risking trauma.

Yet if you don't distinguish between trauma and daily hard work, that sets you up to either:

A. Avoid hard work... possibly while fantasizing about overcoming trauma.

B. Create for yourself a life of trauma. This is not growth. It is just self-harm.