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One of the things that every job has is "prereqs". They often include the ability to code, have good (enough) communication skills, etc.

Some of the unstated ones are - wear clothes to work, not whip your dick out, not lick people, not piss on your desk, etc. As a manager you can easily just say "stop standing near people and/or looking at people more than three seconds if they are not interacting with you".

The issue is that I'm paying you $$ so I don't have to train you. For tech skills, this is what college/etc is for. For human behavior, this is what parents/etc are for.

That you don't see this makes one think you may have these same issues. This isn't a "feelings" thing.

Feelings thing: during a political discussion, I say I voted for Trump (and now you're triggered) This: I am standing closer to you than anyone else and staring at you without you interacting with me. This means you have no cause to be in my space or staring.

Zero need to coach. Have you ever had to be coached on how to not make child porn? Did you demand guide rails and exact spelled-out definitions of constitutes porn when taking pictures of young children? I hope not.

There are lots of things where recognition is far easier than definition. If you lack this skill, you are unfit for the task at hand. This includes many things related to interacting with others, especially regarding children and the opposite sex. Inappropriate hugs/touching, physical proximity, commenting on some attribute, talking to them too much, talking to them at all, standing in such a way as to impede their movement, asking questions, etc.




I spent 12 years in pre-college education, and every teacher I had considered it entirely acceptable to intrude on my personal space and silently monitor me, often literally standing behind me to watch me. I've had managers do similar, usually as part of an explicit QA exercise but occasionally simply because they felt I wasn't paying attention (I'm ADHD and doodle to help me focus)

Do you really want to accuse every single teacher I had of pedophilia?

Not everyone has the same cultural background you do, and some of us are capable of understanding that sometimes someone needs a gentle nudge to get on the same page. You can rant about acceptable skills AFTER you spend 30 minutes trying to actually fix the problem. Until then, you're just a bigot.




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