Well they gave me pills and I'm a little worried about how liberally they hand out ADHD medicine because I know people who have become addicted or dependent on it to function. The psychologist neither put me on a spectrum (it was just a binary diagnosis) nor did anything more than the IQ test + questionnaire combo for the diagnosis. I also know people who went and paid the money to get the diagnosis just to get the drugs so they could study harder (maybe they were actually on the spectrum too but it didn't seem like it).
I don't doubt you when you say you have it worse and that it's a disorder, but I don't think the professionals have their shit together for this either. If I had taken the drugs I'd probably be stuck leading a normal life, addicted to Adderal, or worse not on medication and failing to achieve any goals. In either case for me personally the doctors didn't have the answer.
I could find you a dozen stories of people with severe ADHD who were denied medication, and a dozen more who had to jump through ridiculous hoops to fill their prescriptions.
Taking a prescribed dosage with the intent to improve your life very rarely leads to addiction.
Medication is only one half of the solution. The other half is cognitive behavioral therapy.
Using both together has been shown by peer reviewed studies to be very effective for most patients.
I don't doubt you when you say you have it worse and that it's a disorder, but I don't think the professionals have their shit together for this either. If I had taken the drugs I'd probably be stuck leading a normal life, addicted to Adderal, or worse not on medication and failing to achieve any goals. In either case for me personally the doctors didn't have the answer.