Sorry let me restate this in a way that seems less targeting.
There are many areas of disconnect with people in general in what they think they want versus what they actually want.
For example: Money. Many people (men especially) think they want lots of money. They don't. What they want is happiness. There's even data to back up the fact that past a certain point money doesn't make anyone happier. Yet the drive to become successful is so strong that men will sacrifice their happiness for a shot at more money. Why does burnout even exist? Because men desire money so much that they illogically sacrifice their happiness for something that won't bring them any more happiness.
The above isn't absolutely true but it's a generality that people understand to be generally true.
Like men and money... women and dating is one of these psychological disconnects humans have.
The problem with many people and with you is that everyone has all these psychological triggers that are always on the look out for anything sexist or racist. Relax man, not many people are racist or sexist and HN should foster an environment where people are able to talk about real biological gender differences without getting cancelled.
No I expect mature discussion as the rules of HN specify. There are plenty of people with opinions I vehemently disagree with. The death penalty for example. But their opinion is their right and instead of attacking them and calling them murderers I openly listen to what they have to say and address their points with my own.
Relax. My opinions don't even approach the extremes this paradox is referring to. It's akin to a woman saying all men are only interested in Sex. Probably not true for many men, but also very true for an equal amount of men. Either way, not a big deal.
There's no holocaust denial here or anything like that. Also women and dating advice isn't even some kind of controversial hard hitting topic that effects anything.
We can have mature discussion about the merits and disgusting parts of a death penalty which directly influences human lives but we can't do so about women dishing out bad dating advice? Come on man.
I beg to differ on the happiness part. There's a bit of a high when they win... and it's fleeting... but in general the money trophy does not lead to happiness IMO.
There are many areas of disconnect with people in general in what they think they want versus what they actually want.
For example: Money. Many people (men especially) think they want lots of money. They don't. What they want is happiness. There's even data to back up the fact that past a certain point money doesn't make anyone happier. Yet the drive to become successful is so strong that men will sacrifice their happiness for a shot at more money. Why does burnout even exist? Because men desire money so much that they illogically sacrifice their happiness for something that won't bring them any more happiness.
The above isn't absolutely true but it's a generality that people understand to be generally true.
Like men and money... women and dating is one of these psychological disconnects humans have.
The problem with many people and with you is that everyone has all these psychological triggers that are always on the look out for anything sexist or racist. Relax man, not many people are racist or sexist and HN should foster an environment where people are able to talk about real biological gender differences without getting cancelled.