But if you want to communicate that you respect someone you will avoid the magic words because it's impossible for them to read your mind and understand your true intentions. Just empathy isn't it? If someone calls you a cunt but in their heart of hearts deeply respects you, that's pretty useless isn't it? Because it's impossible to know what is truly in their heart, and you can only judge them by what they say and what they do. If you respect someone why would you communicate in such a way that they could reasonably come to the conclusion that you in fact don't respect them at all?