My two cents... if your inbound baby is your first then a lot of your prior concerns will naturally disappear. If it's not your first then that won't surprise you. Time to be selfish with your time and start distancing yourself from any colleagues that are a time suck.
In my humble opinion, the author is either delusional or spinning a yarn when they say they have solicited advice from colleagues. No co-worker is going to give you advice that doesn't serve their own interests first.
No co-worker is going to give you advice that doesn't serve their own interests first.
I strongly disagree. Plenty of people are self serving, but friendship and mentorship is possible in the workplace. This says a lot more about the places and people that you have worked with than something universal. Alternatively, if this is a mindset that you bring to interactions with co-workers, you might just be getting it reflected back to you.
> No co-worker is going to give you advice that doesn't serve their own interests first.
This just isn’t true, unless you’ve managed to find a supremely hostile workplace.
I’m always shocked at how cynical some HN comments can be about coworkers. I’ve had my fair share of bad coworkers over the years, but I’ve also found numerous wonderful friends and built lasting relationships with many people.
This idea that all coworkers are inherently out to get you is bizarre.
I'm not saying they are inherently out to get you, my point is that they're advice is going to be based first on what works for them and not necessarily what best works for the person seeking advice.
I suppose my larger point is that if a person's main source of stress is coming from the workplace then it's better to seek insight from sources external to the workplace.
In my humble opinion, the author is either delusional or spinning a yarn when they say they have solicited advice from colleagues. No co-worker is going to give you advice that doesn't serve their own interests first.