There's a substantial difference - both in theory and in practice - between Apple being capable of making your device do things you don't want it to do, and them actually doing it.
Saying that just because they could have, we ought to be okay with them actually doing it is nonsense. If you apply that line of thought to a non-updatable product, it becomes pretty clear.
Pick basically anything man-made around you - your shoes, your couch, whatever. That could have plenty of awful things in it. It could be spying on you, it could be poisoning you, whatever.
Just because the manufacturer could have done something terrible, doesn't mean we're okay with them actually doing it. The mere fact Apple can do these things after purchase doesn't make it any more acceptable for them to do so.
> Saying that just because they could have, we ought to be okay with them actually doing it is nonsense. If you apply that line of thought to a non-updatable product, it becomes pretty clear.
That is not the argument I made. The argument was that if they could be corrupted we should assume they are already corrupted. And since they already have control over the device an already corrupted Apple could have been spying on you already. It isn’t excusing their behavior. It is pointing out the naïveté of the current outrage.
Perhaps you are right that the outrage should have come much earlier. I myself avoided Apple since a long time. However, it's better late than never. I'm glad people are finally waking up.