“I don’t like it” is a child’s statement. It is almost never calculated, and I strongly disagree with the assertion that anyone’s trying to cause discomfort.
As someone who has said some really hurtful things, I can’t tell you how much it pains me to have my thoughtlessness mistaken for cruelty.
I recognize it’s not someone else’s job to be understanding of my thoughtlessness, which is why I must employ mindfulness at all times.
I’m also 100% sure that some people come wired for tact, and some don’t.
My son is laser focused on the feelings of others, like my wife, while my daughter is totally oblivious, like me.
I'm speaking in the context of tact. When someone is being tactless, they are communicating to achieve a goal without regard for the social implications of said communication.
The tactlessness has no relationship with the underlying honesty of the goal, though it makes the communication itself less honest.
As someone who has said some really hurtful things, I can’t tell you how much it pains me to have my thoughtlessness mistaken for cruelty.
I recognize it’s not someone else’s job to be understanding of my thoughtlessness, which is why I must employ mindfulness at all times.
I’m also 100% sure that some people come wired for tact, and some don’t.
My son is laser focused on the feelings of others, like my wife, while my daughter is totally oblivious, like me.