Spending time with loved ones doing nothing productive per se is more than waiting for death.

It's living.

There's "boring" and there's "content", and OP is probably talking about the latter. Once you have a family it takes over a lot of the energy you could previously use for work, and that's both expected and desirable.

The evidence is that a society filled with bitter, maladjusted people who's parents were too busy pouring their heart and soul into work to provide a stable, loving family household is one nobody should want. Like, there's shades of grey here, but you should prioritise your children over your next Jira ticket.