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I often find that when talking to other slightly autistic people like me the conversation goes on for far too long and we just can't end it. I often find myself making yet another utterance while there's a voice in my head telling me to shut the fuck up because this is tiring. I can tell the same voice is in the head of my conversation partner too---I know it's time to stop and so do they---but we just keep going. It makes me completely avoid starting conversations with these people after I recognise the problem.

I had a housemate who just couldn't stop. As far as I can tell if he met his clone they would talk until one of them died. Literally the only way to end the conversation is just to walk out of the room and don't stop for any reason whatsoever. I fully believe that he knew it was awkward to keep a conversation going when the other person has physically left the room, is halfway up the stairs and trying to leave, but he just couldn't.

If this sounds like you then try really, really hard to stop it because people will learn to avoid you and that would be a shame.




Had to laugh at this since it resonates with many pointless conversations I seem to feel trapped in. Why can't people just say Hi and keep on moving?

No need to reply, btw. :)


Having had autistic friends for almost my whole life, I learned that it is useful and appropriate to be direct. For example, I have many times said "I'm going to go now" or something to that effect, because it's possible to recognise that conversations do not always have a natural end.


Introduce delays: Let me think a bit. Hmm. Interesting. I will respond tomorrow.




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