When I'm having a tough time over something non-trivial, and someone looks pained and says something like "that must be hard for you" I'm just thinking that's nice but are we friends or are you my psychologist?
If someone said damn that sucks! I went through similar situation X and approach Y worked well for me, that's incredibly useful information! Sharing experiences is a huge part of friendship.
This writer seems to be suggesting that I should see someone's honesty and helpful information as a selfish insult.
Even if it's not advice, I'd much prefer the honest reaction. It's empathy. It doesn't diminish my pain.
When I'm having a tough time over something non-trivial, and someone looks pained and says something like "that must be hard for you" I'm just thinking that's nice but are we friends or are you my psychologist?
If someone said damn that sucks! I went through similar situation X and approach Y worked well for me, that's incredibly useful information! Sharing experiences is a huge part of friendship.
This writer seems to be suggesting that I should see someone's honesty and helpful information as a selfish insult.
Even if it's not advice, I'd much prefer the honest reaction. It's empathy. It doesn't diminish my pain.