We'll probably say something like this to our kids two or three time in their lifetimes.
Listen, a family culture exists whether you acknowledge it and actively try to create it or not. What I'm saying, is that one of the many tools available to a parent is to motivate their children by encouraging them to be a part of that culture. Obviously, it doesn't work or is psychologically damaging if the culture sucks. There are plenty of examples of this tactic being abused, which is why I state it has to be used sparingly, and I'll add by parents who've really thought it through, love their children, and are training them to be independent thinkers. I'm raising kids who will tell me, at an early age, if they think our family culture sucks.
Duty to whom? To the family and their way of thinking, of course.
>Listen, a family culture exists whether you acknowledge it and actively try to create it or not.
>Duty to whom? To the family and their way of thinking, of course.
I think that our family "culture" is simply emergent out of the interplay of our individual characters; the kids are obviously part of that culture whether they're pulling in the direction you want/hoped/prefer/demand or not.
I'm in for a chat over a couple of cold ones on these things but it's a bit too OT for here I think. Thanks for the thought-fodder I'll find a proxy for you and see how it all goes.
Listen, a family culture exists whether you acknowledge it and actively try to create it or not. What I'm saying, is that one of the many tools available to a parent is to motivate their children by encouraging them to be a part of that culture. Obviously, it doesn't work or is psychologically damaging if the culture sucks. There are plenty of examples of this tactic being abused, which is why I state it has to be used sparingly, and I'll add by parents who've really thought it through, love their children, and are training them to be independent thinkers. I'm raising kids who will tell me, at an early age, if they think our family culture sucks.
Duty to whom? To the family and their way of thinking, of course.