See now I wasn't doing that. But here you are decrying oneupsmanship by trying to one-up me. And telling me the weight of my words at the same time you say oneupsmanship carrys no weight.

Do you realise that you are the thing you dislike?

In this instance, I was remarking that a person who thinks of themself as a loser is also the person who is likely to have adopted this cynical and resentful worldview.

A person who opts into this "winner/loser" dynamic has already adopted the world view of one who can lose and will do so.

Living-out-your-values doesnt entail winning or losing anything, rather, it is life measured by authenticity and integrity not "victory".

The low self-regard, resentment and entitlement in this search for "victory" is fair game for mine and any one elses criticism.

I dont need you to tell me the weight of my words, they are weighed according to my values, not yours.