I used to begrudge my friends when I was depressed and isolated (self-sabotage). Why weren't they communicating with me in my ways? They were, but not frequently enough to satisfy me. But in the end, them reaching out multiple times when I was available in only one or two spots, was very commendable and I appreciate the friends that did.

There has to be a middle ground. In this case, unfortunately, besides close friends or family who know something about tech, you will have to be the one to compromise and use their apps. Plus, I've seen getting people to move to your communication methods which are less popular usually leads to less talking. Not always, just something I've noticed isn't uncommon. I end up talking to people more if we just use FBM or iMessage or something.