I came to a similar realization a few years ago. Helped a lot with dating.
You are the only constant in your life. The only person with complete continuity (outside any mishaps/substances). That moment you're obsessing over? To everyone else it's just a 3min awkward interaction with a random person they're never going to see again. Or a bit of weirdness in a relationship that's going to last a small fraction of their life if you're lucky.
Relax, do stuff, experiment, have fun. You're the only one who cares. Say something random, see what happens.
You are the only constant in your life. The only person with complete continuity (outside any mishaps/substances). That moment you're obsessing over? To everyone else it's just a 3min awkward interaction with a random person they're never going to see again. Or a bit of weirdness in a relationship that's going to last a small fraction of their life if you're lucky.
Relax, do stuff, experiment, have fun. You're the only one who cares. Say something random, see what happens.