the tone of the article is that sex is something that happens to women. this perspective is damaging because it both precludes women from taking responsibility for enjoying sex, and gives men responsibility for their partner's satisfaction. sex is, to a certain degree, about selfishness.
i think it's great that gallop started MakeLoveNotPorn - being aware that both men and women can / should speak up when you like / don't like something is a good first step towards taking responsibility for having a good sex life.
The idea that porn is to blame is wrong though. There is plenty of porn where the sex is not 'just happening' to the woman.
The fact that people seek out porn where sex 'happens' to women and/or adopt it as their point of view says more about society than about porn. Porn is just a scapegoat.
Couldn't have said it better - there's a huge variety of porn out there - and I personally dislike anything overtly "porn-star" like. There's truly something for all tastes when it comes to pornography on the internet - the fact that your significant other is seeking one type of porn above others probably signals his preferences moreso than his porn is dictating things to him.
It's the age-old causality question: do men choose porn based on existing sexual preferences, or does porn dictate people's sexual preferences? I'm more inclined to think that it's mostly the former and a bit of the latter.
i think it's great that gallop started MakeLoveNotPorn - being aware that both men and women can / should speak up when you like / don't like something is a good first step towards taking responsibility for having a good sex life.